What one person considers kinky is another person’s regular bedroom delight… but in these workshops we explore a wide array of what the world considers kinky, freaky, or straight up fun! Some of these topics are for beginners who are new to making their sex life a little more spicy, while others are for advanced adventurers, so check out which ones light you up or might be a good fit. Let’s have fun, get creative, and affirm our own authentic selves in creative sexual and identity expression.

In addition to the following course list, Lee is also available for custom-designed courses that are collaboratively designed with your needs, as well as keynote presentations on a wide variety of topics. Please do not hesitate to contact Lee if you have any questions about which classes (or modified courses) would best work for your group, venue, or organization.

Classes, Workshops, and Presentations

  • The world is full of risks, but each of us have different levels of willingness, capacity, and interest in taking the risks we might come across in our life. The same is true in our erotic and kinky pursuits. In this class we will look at what a risk profile is and how to decide what choices we might feel comfortable with around physical risks, legal repercussions, emotional fallout, potential psychological damage, (mis)communication possibilities, and the effects some play can have on our relationships. From Gambler’s Fallacy and trauma bonding to altered states and the disproportionate effects risks can have on some populations, this will be a wild ride. Though open to all attendees, buckle in as we will be discussing a variety of “edge play” activities as well as things people might consider immoral, illegal, inappropriate, dubious, and dangerous.

  • Aftercare isn’t just a nice idea; it’s a vital part of returning to homeostasis after intense scenes and powerful experiences. In this deep-dive we’ll explore the questions that help us shape aftercare practices that honor everyone involved: Who needs it, what agreements are in place, and when does care begin and end? We’ll also look at how consent, communication, and power dynamics can shape what aftercare looks like from scene to scene and person to person. How do we name our needs with honesty and compassion, especially when our capacity doesn’t match our partner’s? We’ll also widen the lens to include the often-overlooked realms of pre-care and during-care. Through discussion and embodied exercises inspired by Jake Ernst’s “Routes of Safety,” you’ll explore tools for shared, self, and group aftercare. Together we’ll “experience-storm” pathways for grounding, reconnection, and gentle reintegration so that soft landings become as intentional as our scenes.

  • So you’re curious about roleplay but not quite sure how to step into it? Let’s explore together and build practical skills for calling up sensuality, anger, grief, playfulness, and other emotional states on command through classical evocation techniques. We’ll look at how evocation can help you access your inner Daddy, pony, goddess, monster, or any other facet waiting beneath the surface. From there, we’ll shift into invocation by learning how to tap into personal, cultural, and universal archetypes or energies that inspire you. Just because a persona isn’t already living inside you doesn’t mean you can’t embody it through simple guided exercises and collaborative brainstorming, and this class is a chance to build tools for all of these possibilities.

  • Across cultures and communities, body modification has long been a way to express our identities, our affiliations, our milestones, our politics, and our spiritual connections. From the haircuts we choose to blend in or stand out to the makeup we wear with intention, we all modify ourselves in order to move through the world. In this class, we’ll explore a wide spectrum of body modification practices - from henna and ritual jewelry to tattoos, genital reconstruction, hook suspension, stage wardrobe, body piercing, and beyond. We’ll also dive into the energies these practices carry, the social meanings they evoke, and the important conversations around cultural appropriation. Together, we’ll look at why every alteration to our flesh can be sacred or profane depending on context, intention, and the stories we breathe into our transformations.

  • We have been “playing pretend” since we were young, but kinky sexuality opens up new and potentially taboo forms of roleplaying. Join us as we explore the shadowy realms of our fantasies and make-believe we can try on: abduction, torture, snuff, fantastical creatures, and anything else our twisted minds can dream up. We will discuss the joys of playing consensually in our closets, why these dark desires turn us on, how to bring up these taboo interests with our partners, negotiating our interests, and troubleshooting the challenges these types of roleplaying fantasies can elicit.

  • In the erotically adventurous world, a lot of conversation has been batted about concerning the idea of objectification and its supposed partner, humiliation. However, for those of us who believe objects have souls, things have value, and the earth itself is not something to be thrown away when we are done with it, how does this dynamic between human and human-object shift? This class will explore how our interactions with a human-table change for those of us who look at tables as valuable and meaningful with personalities all their own. In an animistic worldview where everything has a soul, let's look at whether humiliation has a place in the language of objectification and dive into our own ethics while examining our objects of desire, and having fun along the way.

  • Each of us processes pain and intense sensations in different ways. Some of us scream, some go silent, and others laugh with glee. There are those that focus on the connection they have with their partners and go stoic, while others dance, writhe, and squirm to let the pain come out through movement. From distracting ourselves with other thoughts or body inputs, to breathing techniques, we will discuss how different individuals process pain and how to increase your own effectiveness in transmuting pain into pleasure, suffering, or erotic connection.

  • Let’s admit it: doing genital torment on transguys is different than doing it on other bodies. In some ways we struggle, but in other ways we get the best of all worlds, so let’s talk about our desires to torment, tease, punish, and pamper our amazing flesh. After discussing the varieties of genitals out there to play with (plus what we call them), and how our hormones and modifications (or having had neither) have affected our CBT and sex, we will demonstrate and discuss a wide variety of torment options. Abrasion, piercing, bondage, clamps, caning… plus more advanced concepts like playing with trans genital humiliation will all be up for grabs.

  • Some people like blindfolds and whipped cream. Others enjoy pushing the boundaries of what their body can take. Whether you like intense sensations or more subtle “flavors,” everyone wins when they learn to explore their tastes. There are so many tastes out there - perhaps we will uncover some new ones for you to enjoy! This can include bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, masochism, fetishes, voyeurism... and so much more. We will look together at our tastes from mild to wild, while crafting ideas for scenes and play that can deepen the diverse connections we have in our sexuality and kinks. Bring your questions and get ready to become aware of a variety of ways that people express their desires.

  • Feel grounded now in the theories, desires, fantasies, and concepts of the diverse things called kink? Do you want skills for getting freaky? This is your chance to do just that. In this class we will develop communication systems to use during erotic antics, then learn about the body and how it can receive different sorts of sensations. We will play around with blindfolds before learning three different ways to use rope in your play. You will see how to do spankings in ways that titillate rather than cause harm, and peek at the art of flogging, canes, and other impact toys. Participation is not required but is available for those who want to practice. Clothing required. 18+ with all attendees carded at the door.

  • Many of us hunger for erotic exploration, dominance, submission, or beautifully twisted play - and disability can shape those journeys in ways that deserve to be honored. In this session, we’ll look at how physical, neurological, mental, and aging-related realities influence the ways we approach BDSM and other kinks, whether those experiences are visible or invisible. Together we’ll explore adaptations, creative strategies, and the delight that can emerge when we build play around the bodies and minds we actually have. We’ll share challenges, swap ideas, and uplift one another’s ingenuity and lived wisdom. Whether you’re navigating these experiences yourself or supporting a partner, come ready to learn, imagine, and celebrate the many ways desire can thrive.

  • We’ve all had those unforgettable moments when a toy goes rogue or the soundtrack sabotages the mood - and suddenly the erotic becomes downright hilarious. But beyond these happy accidents, humor can be an intentional doorway into deeper intimacy, creative exploration, and renewed connection. In this class, we’ll wander through the many flavors of comedy - absurdity, slapstick, satire, dark humor, dry wit - and discover how each can weave its way into our erotic encounters. Whether you’re using laughter to soothe old stories, navigate tender edges, spark new adventures, or simply play with joy, there’s room for your unique style. Come explore how humor can become its own kind of magic in your sensual and sexual journeys.

  • Age Play among consenting adults can be a vibrant, imaginative landscape far beyond the stereotypes often projected from outside (or even inside) the kink community. In this class we’ll explore the personal, cultural, and archetypal roles used between consenting adults to take on creative roles other than their natal age.  Adults might role play being mischievous teens, kind babysitters, bratty scouts, and sweet adult babies, and in doing so discover how these energies can inform both play and identity. Together we’ll look at pre-verbal, toddler, school-age, teen, and adult roles, as well as familial archetypes and other “adults,” honoring the many ways we express power, care, rebellion, and delight. We’ll also touch on incorporating age play into other kinks while navigating the emotional land mines that past experiences may have left behind. Bring your curiosity, your imagination, and your willingness to explore.

  • Erotic explorers are often told to know their needs, name their limits, and negotiate like their pleasure depends on it - yet many of us still feel lost about where to begin or how to shape the conversation. In this class, we’ll treat negotiation as both self-discovery and delicious anticipation, mapping our desires before we ever step into a scene or relationship dynamic. Together, we’ll explore multiple styles of negotiation so you can find the approaches that resonate with your voice, your boundaries, and your longing. We’ll also look at the skills needed to negotiate clearly and confidently with others, whether you’re planning a one-night scene or crafting an ongoing connection. New or seasoned, bold or shy, top, bottom, or switch - everyone is invited to deepen their practice and refine this essential art.

  • Ever wanted to get involved in the kink community but don’t know where to start? Shy and overwhelmed? Curious about the types of events and get-togethers out there in the land of perviness? Every event is different, and you deserve to find the ones that fit you. We’ll look into why folks want to be part of the community and how that affects your adventure, some of the myths you’ll encounter from outsiders and kinksters alike, the pitfalls we may encounter, and how to have fun along the way. So pull out your social graces, dust off those leather boots (or heels, or sandals), and let’s dive into kink events and culture.

  • Each of us carries an animal within - raw, instinctive, and ancient - calling us to chase or be chased, to rise up or surrender to the hunt. In this class, we’ll explore the wide landscape of primal play, from bedroom growls and teeth on skin to crafted scenes that echo the thrill of pursuit through shadowed spaces. Together we’ll look at the “why” of your inner beast, the identities and desires that shape it, and how to navigate these states with intention and care. We’ll build tools for negotiation, nonverbal communication, and knowing when to lean in or ease back when consent grows more nuanced. Bring your curiosity, your wildness, and any practices you use for entering and returning from primal space, as we learn from one another in this class.

  • For some people role-playing is a chance for non-serious fun and delight, while for others what looks like role-playing is anything but. For many on diverse mental health journeys, these practices can become supportive tools: a depressed mind trying on confidence, a dissociative system choosing who fronts in a negotiated space, or an anxious heart finding calm in clear roles and protective structure. In this class, we’ll explore how roles and personas can help us thrive in kink and play contexts while honoring the truth that past trauma, triggers, and unspoken struggles can shape these experiences. Together we will name the differences between playing a part and revealing a piece of ourselves, learn how to enter and exit these headspaces with intention, and gather strategies for when scenes drift sideways. Along the way, we’ll weave in approaches to aftercare, grounding, and connection so that these journeys - whether playful or profound - are held with care.

  • Some of us aren’t interested in investing in expensive tack, or maybe leather simply isn’t our language - and sometimes travel means we only have space for what fits in a backpack. With just a few lengths of rope, we can craft body harnesses, leg wraps, tails, and even intricate head cages to bring our pony play visions to life. This class invites you to step into creativity and embodiment, exploring how simple tools can unlock expansive expression. If you’d like to explore hands-on, bring two 25-30 foot pieces of rope and one 25-30 foot length of parachute cord.

  • Many of us slip into altered states during sensual, sexual, kink, BDSM, and fetish experiences without ever naming the terrain we’re crossing. In this journey through the eight major routes of Sacred Kink, we’ll look at how ritual can shape initiatory moments like earning leathers, how rhythm can guide cathartic impact play, how flesh can open pathways in sensual bondage, and how each route holds its own form of magic. You’ll be invited to notice where your body, spirit, and desire meet, and how those intersections can become portals rather than accidents. We’ll explore how these practices echo traditions thousands of years old while offering tools to deepen your own energetic awareness today. Whether you’re seeking intention, connection, or a more conscious approach to your play, this class offers a map to the sacred threads already woven through your erotic life.

  • How do we, as sacred erotic explorers, keep ourselves grounded, protected, and empowered as we move through experiences that engage our bodies, our Will, and our desire? Together we’ll explore how toys, safer-sex supplies, fetish tools, and other intimate gear can become allies in energetic shielding, extensions of our astral selves, and sources of personal power. We’ll look at the dance of body fluids and prana, how to move energy beyond physical barriers, and how to consciously choose what parts of our spirit mingle - or don’t - with those we play with. We’ll also discuss dedicating our erotic tools and navigating the ethics of energetic exchange. Prior experience with sex magic or energy work can deepen the journey, but all curious seekers are welcome.

  • Ready to explore the world of infinite love and sex but want tips on how to do it safely? Already using safer sex practices, but looking for tips to have it be less stressful, more fun, and seemingly seamless? In this no-judgment class, we’ll discuss (and even try practicing with our clothes still on) how to make safer sex sexy, while sharing some of the health concerns that make us want to play in a safer way. We will expand our definitions of sex, reengineer the role that barriers play, and explore techniques and strategies to keep you and your partners healthy and happy - no matter what kinds of hot, steamy action you enjoy.

  • “So you just hit someone with this thing, right?” Impact play is far richer than that, weaving together sensation, intention, and connection. In this class, we’ll explore why certain strikes feel erotic, why tools like canes or hands call to us, and how to navigate questions like where you can safely receive a blow and how hard to go. We’ll cover choosing and using tools safely, along with ways to build heat, emotion, and intimacy through impact. If you have toys, feel free to bring them so we can look at the array of toys out there; if not, there will be an array of tools available for you to try as we explore this art with skill and curiosity.

  • The word Switch carries a lot of weight in a BDSM world that often insists we choose a single side - Top or Bottom, Master or Slave - even though many of us feel called to move fluidly or inhabit multiple facets of ourselves. In this class, we’ll explore the many reasons people switch: Tops curious about surrender, Slaves serving masochistic Masters, versatile players who crave a full spectrum of experience, and everything in between. We’ll discuss strategies for finding compatible play partners and relationship structures, whether that’s one partner with many roles, partners switching inside monogamous relationships, plus polyamory, swinging, open relationships, or even self-play. Together, we’ll practice ways to check in with our own needs so we can honor them with clarity and integrity. Let’s examine what switching means, what we’re ready to embrace, and what old assumptions we might finally set down or transform.

  • For many, the call to step into something more-than-human is powerful - but just as compelling is the path of those who care for, guide, and cherish these “creatures.” In this class, we’ll explore the motivations behind human pet handling, the art of training, and the joy of tending to human animals with intention and heart. We’ll look at the psychology of pet play from all sides of the leash, considering the needs, desires, and emotional landscapes of everyone involved. Practical topics such as navigating bodily realities to maintaining headspace during erotic play, to finding the right gear for your ponies and pups will be discussed with clarity and respect. Whether you’re brand new to handling or a seasoned equine enthusiast, this is an opportunity to examine your desires and learn how to bring them to life with skill and care.

  • Across the globe, kink and sexuality conferences have multiplied - yet many feel interchangeable, leaving us unsure what city or community we’ve stepped into. What, then, makes an event truly distinctive, worth traveling for, worth believing in? As organizers, producers, educators, and community stewards, let’s clarify our values, our purpose, and the stories we want our events to tell. In this session, we’ll also get to look into diverse types of events that have happened worldwide and look at their uniqueness as a way to inspire us. Bring your ideas and bold dreams as we explore how to create events that reflect who we are - and who we aspire to become.

  • In the world of BDSM, we often speak of Leather as identity, heritage, passion, or soul - but what happens when we turn our gaze to the leather itself? This material, once a living and breathing creature, has become a second skin for generations of erotic explorers, shaping scenes of power, pleasure, devotion, and transformation. From implements that sting or soothe to garments that mold themselves to our bodies over time, leather invites us to consider how a simple hide can evolve into fetish, sex, spirit, and the very idea of a Leather Community. In this class, we’ll journey through those layers - material, emotional, erotic, ancestral - to discover what leather awakens in each of us. Please bring a piece of leather that speaks to you: earned leathers, beloved belt, favorite flogger, utilitarian wallet, well-worn boots, or something else as part of this conversation towards understanding leather as more than a raw material.

  • Fetishes are often spoken of casually in kink communities, but what truly shapes a fetish and gives it its charge? Where do these desires arise from, and what is it about a particular object, material, scenario, or body part that calls so vividly to us? This class offers space to share your own experiences, as well as room for the curious to learn about the many theories and lived realities behind fetishistic desire. Whether your interests are sweet, intense, playful, or deeply specific, you are welcome in the conversation. Together, we’ll explore how these potent erotic pulls can become meaningful pathways into arousal, understanding, and embodied connection.

  • Many have a conscious or unconscious desire to embody a noble horse, a joyful pup, a slick piglet, a languid house cat, a skittish gerbil, or a beloved cow, and many others are drawn to caring for or engaging with these creatures-of-the-heart. In this class, we’ll explore the fantasies, identities, and embodied passions that live within this wide and wondrous realm of animal play and creature expression. From structured training to shamanic journeywork, from tender pets to feral beasts, from devoted handlers to mischievous veterinarians, this landscape holds multitudes. Whether your interests lean toward cuddly companions, protective guardians, playful chaos, or disciplined service, there is space for your desires and curiosity here. Together, we’ll dive into the scenes, tools, lifestyles, and delights of this practice with curiosity, respect, and an open spirit.

  • Has someone ever hinted that your Saturday adventures - or your entire life - sound too wild to be real? Have you been told you’re “too much” simply for existing as you are, or that your world must be dazzling or dreadful because it doesn’t fit their script? In this guided conversation we’ll explore how to navigate the projections others place on us, how their imagined narratives affect our feelings, and what our lived truth actually looks like. Whether you’re an edge player, in a 24/7 power-dynamic relationship, walk an immersive spiritual path, live with complex medical realities, or work a job others label as “unimaginable,” you’re welcome here. Together, we’ll weave a circle of peership and camaraderie among folks whose everyday lives fall beautifully outside the expected map.

Intensives

  • The realm of Sacred Kink is wide, wild, and profoundly human - a place where breath meets intention, where skin becomes a doorway, and where our spiritual longings braid with our erotic truths. In this three-day immersive intensive we will explore the Eightfold Paths of Sacred Kink through experiential practices, guided ritual, and heartfelt inquiry. Together we will awaken the body, stir the spirit, laugh out loud, release rhythm, and remember the ancient knowing carried within our flesh. This intimate weekend invites both seasoned travelers and curious newcomers to step into altered states of consciousness with care, courage, and community, discovering how these practices can deepen pleasure, authenticity, and connection.

    In this intensive, participants will:

    • Explore the Eightfold Paths of Sacred Kink through hands-on techniques, energetic engagement, and embodied ritual.

    • Cultivate personal tools for entering, navigating, and integrating altered states, including trance, ordeal, creativity, and power exchange.

    • Learn to communicate desires clearly, receive touch mindfully, and articulate boundaries as sacred acts of truth-telling.

    • Discuss taboo topics, from conscious ordeals to sacred plants, through a lens of grounded spirituality, ethics, and practical application.

    • Deepen self-knowledge by experimenting with roles, identities, and ritual frameworks that expand consciousness and challenge limiting narratives.

    This gathering is intentionally limited in size so we can create a brave, supported space for honest exploration, shared ritual, and transformative learning. All attendees are interviewed in advance to ensure the container serves their growth, and throughout the weekend you’ll be encouraged to opt in, step back, rest, and re-engage at your own pace. Whether you are attending solo, in pairs, triads, or small groups, not all rituals or hands-on explorations will be with the same people as we dance between these various routes to altered states. 

    Additionally, morning coffee/snacks, lunches, and dinners are provided during the weekend with individual needs and allergies in mind to allow for the group to spend more immersive time together. Sometimes the deepest learning and bonding we can have is in the liminal spaces between formal instruction and exercises. If you feel the call to journey deeper into your erotic authenticity, spiritual hunger, and embodied power, this intensive offers a rare chance to step fully into that path. 

    Sacred Kink. Serious Play.

  • If the Goddess says that all acts of love and pleasure are Her rituals, then our bodies become living altars - sites of memory, magick, and possibility. In this two-day intensive, we’ll journey into the sensual and the sacred, discovering how our senses, breath, and mindful presence can unlock deep erotic power. Together we will also name the collective wounds we carry from the over-culture, honoring that healing and awakening often walk hand in hand.

    Through shared stories, gentle movement, playful experiments, journaling, and creative expression, we will explore where our bodies have been and what they long for next. From this grounded place, we’ll learn to evoke emotion, cultivate embodied ritual, and engage in self-touch as an act of remembrance and reclamation - always honoring that touch takes many forms. Come with an open heart and a curious spirit, ready to listen for the whispers of sex magick and step into embodied wisdom.