Lee Harrington: Classes

Bondage Classes

Asymmetrical Bondage: The human eye is drawn to the triangle, the thing that is out of place, the imbalance in life. Asymmetrical bondage is not just aesthetically pleasing, but a sexually and sensually pleasing practice that puts us out of balance, reminding us where balance really is important. We will address key ways to bring asymmetry into our scenes, from disproportionate bindings to being forced to balance on one leg, lop-sided ties and punishments to ties that pull in reversed directions. Body stresses, imbalanced desires, and how to pull it all together will be of major import, as well as asking how we can not make it look stupid. Bring at least one 25+ ft piece of rope for hands on opportunities in class, though limited supplies will be available to borrow.
Bondage and Breath: Rope bondage effects how we breathe- from the constriction of rope corsets and chest harnesses to positional asphyxia. But how we breathe also has the power to effect how we do bondage-chest breathing vs. belly breathing, intentional breathing for connection, and more. We will look into how breath moves through the body, how bondage positions effect how we breathe, then work to see how ties effect breath before diving into styles of breathing, breath training for bondage bottoms (and riggers too), and connecting through breath in our ties.
Bondage for the Female Form: From intricate or tight breast bondage to curled poses that emphasize the curve of the hip or exposure of their desires, women's bodies provide a unique opportunity for practical and creative bondage. We will work on chest ties for petite, curvy and extra-luscious forms, ropework that exposes or constricts the genitals and rump, body harnesses and rope corsets that emphasize feminine lines, and more. Bring at least 2 25ft+ pieces of rope for hands on play, though limited supplies with be available to borrow, and a willingness to have fun and learn!
Encase, Rip, Wrap and Transform: Clothing Bondage Made Easy: Spontaneous ties created from a converted tee shirt. Full encasement fetish scenes for just a few dollars using three pairs of pantyhose. Turning your boots into bondage mitts for human puppies. Let's examine the whys of using clothing as bondage, from take down scenes to object fetishism and much more, then look at how to convert a variety of clothes into tools of bondage delight. Learn how to make blindfolds, hoods, gags, arm sleeves, mitts, straight jackets, wrist cuffs, sex-assisting devices, mummy bags, strap on harnesses, water torture devices, and so much more out of what we likely already have in our closets! Please bring a pair of underwear (or take them off in class), socks, and a destroyable tee shirt and pair of pantyhose if you want to play along!
Erotic Macramé: Creative Decorative Bondage: Imagine the human body as your canvas, and rope as your paints... let's create art! From body harnesses to creative chest harnesses, rope corsets to beautifully applied crotch ropes and rump bindings, we'll look into some ways to turn yourself or your partner into a sight to be seen. We will also look at ways to accent and add decorative details to other forms of rope bondage. Bring at least 2 pieces of rope, 25+ft in length, for hands on exploration, though limited supplies will be available to borrow from the instructor.
Erotic Macramé and Japanese Style Bondage Intensive: Let's get our hands on some rope, and develop our own voice as artists and sensual pleasure enthusiasts! We'll start our day learning the concepts of erotic exploration with rope and desire as our tools, from simple restraints to beautiful combined Japanese style poses that combine chest harnesses and visually pleasing two-column restraints. Then we'll have an opportunity to imagine the human body as our canvas, and rope as our paints- we will learn how to create decorative body harnesses, rope corsets, crotch ropes and rump bindings, and finally learn how to make our own strap-ons out of rope that fit perfect every time. With just 2-4 pieces of 25-30ft pieces of rope (and a dildo if you want to make your own strap-on), we will be able to create a wide variety of ties, from Gyaku Ebi (asian hogties) to Kikkou Karada (tortise shell body harnesses)... and everything in-between. We will get to the core of rope bondage in just one day- talking about our desires, physical and emotional safety, types of materials to play with, and of course- the basic three and a half knots you need to know to do hundreds of different rope ties.
GenderQueer Bondage: Rope for People "Between": Ever had to struggle with how to put a crotch rope on a woman who has a little something extra? Wanted to tie up a transman who wanted chest bondage that didn't make him look like a girl? Perhaps you just want to explore some hot ways to tie up your lovers to make them feel androgynous and exposed? Then this class is for you. We'll be exploring crotch ropes and strap on harnesses, alternative forms of chest and torso bondage (to emphasize and deemphasize curves), and looking at a few other ties that can make your partner feel emphasized into whatever gender or otherness we see ourselves as. Bring two or more pieces of rope, 25-30ft in length, for hands-on fun and exploration in this class for "the rest of us".
Introduction to Asian Aesthetic Bondage: Japanese Style Bondage (known as Shibari, NawaShibari or Kinbaku) is a tradition with a history combining art, martial arts, meditation, torture, and erotic passion. However, this class is about getting to the meat of the matter- learning the few basic ties that will get you started and actually USING Shibari today. We will cover single and double column ties, chest harnesses, crotch ropes, and learning to think creatively about combining these key elements in your play. Bring at least one 25-30ft piece of rope, more if possible, for hands-on play and practice, though limited supplies will be available to borrow from the instructor.
Kama Sutra Bondage: Shakti rode astride Shiva, her arms and legs wrapped around him as if she were tied to his flesh. Let's help her. Binding lover to lover, binding two bottoms facing each other before tandem floggings, paired suspensions, double mummifications... there are so many opportunities out there to have two or more people connected in bondage. Let's look to the Kama Sutra and other sources for inspiration as we look at positions, tips, techniques, equipment, and the wrangling involved in multi-person bondage scenes- whether the Top/rigger is bound or otherwise. Bring at least one 25-30ft piece of rope, more if possible, for hands-on play and practice, though limited supplies will be available to borrow from the instructor.
Partners Bondage intensive- Sensual and Traditional Bondage Poses for Partners: Bondage is not just about how to tie a good knot- it is about the scenes we set and the connection you build with your partner. We will be looking at some of the traditional poses used in sensual and restrictive Japanese bondage that you can use at home with your partner- and analyze them not just for HOW to do them- but why, and what ways we can do the tying as a scene unto and of themselves. Also- how to use your bottoms senses to your advantage, ways to connect to your partner(s) using sensual and traditional bondage, communicating desires concerning bondage, and more. In this 5+ hour intensive you are encouraged to bring at least 3 25+ft pieces of rope for hands on intensive exploration in class, though limited supplies will be available to borrow.
Passion Bound I- Erotic Macramé and Japanese Style Rope Intensive: Let's get our hands on some rope, and develop our own voice as artists and sensual pleasure enthusiasts! We'll start our day learning the concepts of erotic exploration with rope and desire as our tools, from simple restraints to beautiful combined Japanese style poses that combine chest harnesses and visually pleasing two-column restraints. Then we'll have an opportunity to imagine the human body as our canvas, and rope as our paints- we will learn how to create decorative body harnesses, rope corsets, crotch ropes and rump bindings, and finally learn how to make our own strap-ons out of rope that fit perfect every time. With just 2-4 pieces of 25-30ft pieces of rope (and a dildo if you want to make your own strap-on, but more rope is always nice), we will be able to create a wide variety of ties, from Gyaku Ebi (asian hogties) to Kikkou Karada (tortoise shell body harnesses)... and everything in-between. We will get to the core of rope bondage in just one day- talking about our desires, the WHY of why we tie, physical and emotional safety, types of materials to play with, and of course- the basic three and a half knots you need to know to do hundreds of different rope ties. We will also explore partial suspension concepts and talk about the way to find your own style as a rope artist.
Passion Bound II- Harnessing Partial and Full Suspensions: Using a series of Japanese style techniques, we'll look at how to get your play partner up into the air or forced onto one toe. In this intermediate to advanced level intensive for students who understand the basics of one and two column ties, basic knots and some understanding of body mechanics, we will look first into the whys of partial and full suspension bondage, then start throwing rope around ourselves. Students will need a bare minimum of 4 25-30ft and 3 15ft load-worthy pieces of rope and either a suspension ring, 3-4 climbing carabineers, or some other metal load-bearing gear. From creating drop points and creating mechanical advantage in lifting to creating under and over-arm chest harnesses, swiss seat climbing harnesses, drum ties for inversions, concepts for flipping our partners between poses, and using a multitude of other tie styles, by the end of this course every rigger will have had an opportunity to get their partner, or themselves, up in the air. Though focusing on the technical aspects of how to move bodies in partial and full suspension, this class will also heavily look into the bio-mechanics of suspension, the whys of doing suspension (from fucking or meditation to torture or trust) to best be able to use this camp of advanced ropework for what you really want it for.
Playing with the Head: Hair and Face Bondage: We look out into the world through our eyes, listen to it with our ears, breathe in every breath through our nose and mouth, and communicate our desires with smiles, sparkling looks and verbal conversation. It is understandable why for many people, facial bondage is an invasion of personal space, an intimate form of play, and a hot way to get someone's attention. We will focus on making rope blindfolds and gags, simple and complex hair bondage, woven head harnesses and more. Bring a 15-20ft piece of 2-4mm line (parachute cord, hemp, silk sash line- whatever works for you) for head harnesses if possible, but standard 6mm line will work for blindfolds and gags.
Playing with the Head: Hair, Face and Cock Bondage: We look out into the world through our eyes, listen to it with our ears, breathe in every breath through our nose and mouth, and communicate our desires with smiles, sparkling looks and verbal conversation. It is understandable why for many people, facial bondage is an invasion of personal space, an intimate form of play, and a hot way to get someone's attention. We will focus on making rope blindfolds and gags, simple and complex hair bondage, woven head harnesses and more. Bring a 15-20ft piece of 2-4mm line (parachute cord, hemp, silk sash line- whatever works for you) for head harnesses if possible, but standard 6mm line will work for blindfolds and gags. Once we have played with the upper head, we'll turn our attention to the one between the legs and work on basic Cock and Ball Bondage- ball stretchers, cock encasement, cock rings, and more!
Rope for Me: Rope Self-Bondage Techniques: Some of us don't have partners. Some of us are in relationships with folks who can't tie their shoes, or are bottoms themselves. Some of us just like tying ourselves up. Some of us like to masturbate bound. Whatever your reason, you are NOT alone. Let's explore our desires, safety techniques for self-bondangers, discuss tools of the trade- then plunge into how to do a wide variety of self bondage using rope (but we'll mention the other options too). From putting a crotch rope on yourself to building coil and cinch super hogties, we'll explore what the human body really can do to itself with rope (and depending on time we may even peek at self suspension and tying formal taka-takotes on ourselves which both take a bit of magic). Please bring three pieces of 25-30ft rope (6mm is my preferred width) and one piece of 10-15ft rope as well (material is of your choice, I prefer hemp of MFP). If you have any of your own favorite equipment for self-bondage, please bring it as well for show-and-tell (or just show if you're shy). This is a hands on class (though non-interactive learners or supporters are welcome), so wear comfortable clothes and bring an attitude of fun and learning- because we are going to laugh at ourselves a bit!
Rope Sex: Bondage For Lovemaking and More: Rope bondage is a wonderful tool for spicing up your sex life- from binding legs open for access to the loins to turning a bed into somewhere a lover can't escape from, giving into their desires. We will learn how to make simple restraints for spread-eagle poses or binding lovers to chairs, as well as exploring ways to bind limb to limb, body to body, crotch ropes (and how to convert them into pieces that can be fucked through), and more. Let's explore and think creatively about techniques for adding bondage to your style of sensuality and sex. Bring at least one 25-30ft piece of rope, and a dildo if you have one, for hands-on play, though limited supplies will be available to borrow from the instructor.
Sacred Rope: Rope Bondage for Energetic, Spiritual and Magical Connection: Ordeal path workings using torture tie techniques. Hand-made rope collars for intentional acts of submission. Transformational rites using rope for rites of passage or deity invocation. Rope bondage positions for yoga, trance workings, and divination. Rope bondage has the power to be used as a diverse energetic, spiritual and magical tool, and in this class we will dive into historical applications of rope magic and turn to the present in a discussion of how this amazing tool can be modified to your needs no matter your path.
Simplest Toybag: Creative Uses for Rope: Ever tire of hauling around tons of toys? Ever consider just grabbing 2-8 pieces of rope, and calling that your toybag? Now you can. From leashes to improvised whips, nooses and garrotes to gags to blindfolds, instant vibrator to genital torture device, rope has so many more possibilities to be used in a scene. Learn some new tricks for an old friend, your favorite piece of rope. Bring one 15-30ft piece of rope for playing along and having a great time!
Speed Bondage!: Who says rope bondage takes ages to tie? In this intermediate level class, we plunge into a variety of techniques, from quick hair bondage to texas handfuffs, traditional taka-takote options to hojojutsu ties. We will also look at how to make our movements more efficient for speed and beauty of movement. Students need to come with a working knowledge of how to tie a square knot (reef knot) and have an understanding of how rope feels in their hands, plus show up in comfortable clothing that is easy to move in. Two lengths of rope, 15ft (5+ meters) and 30ft (10+ meters) in length is sufficient to do all of the work in this class, though some rope will be available on hand for folks without any.
Ties that Connect Us: Rope Bondage, Intention and Magic: Join me in an exploration not only of the art of rope bondage, but how to use it for connecting with our partners and for doing both simple and intense magical workings. Feel the fibers echoing your desires through your fingertips and wrapped around the body of your partner, feel the fibers trace you towards divination techniques you may not have explored before, feel the fibers teach you another way to explore the universe at large. From fun and playful hands on practices to intense conversations about the ethics of rope bondage magic (such as tying lives together in handfastings, cutting energetic cords, using rope for astral workings, or divination with ropework) and how it applies to a variety of the eight-fold paths (rope bondage is not just about ordeals after all). Feel the fibers in your finger tips, and find the ties that connect us. Bring rope for hands on exploration segments.
Turning Ties Inward: Finding your Path and Desires in/with Rope Bondage: In this discussion based class about rope bondage, we will start by asking when was the last time you listened to your masturbations, desires and inner erotic voice? Does suspension get you all riled up, or are you just doing it because everyone else is? We will look at our fantasies and see how we have applied these fantasies and evolving desires to what we are doing nowadays. This frank discussion will bring up taboos, fantasies and passions FIRST, then discuss what paths and styles of bondage people may want to explore to get the most out of what they actually want to make happen in the flesh.
Who Needs a Top? Self-Bondage and Auto-Erotic Play: Some of us don't have partners. Some of us are in relationships with folks who can't tie their shoes, or are bottoms themselves. Some of us just like tying ourselves up. Some of us like to masturbate bound. Whatever your reason, you are NOT alone. Let's explore our desires, safety techniques for self-bondangers, discuss tools of the trade, tricks for self-bondage with rope, chain, pantyhose, obi, latex, and so much more... plus touch on other forms of auto-erotic play. Please bring some of your favorite equipment for self-bondage to share with the class, as well as a 25+ft piece of rope for hands on exploration.
WWRMD? Partial and Full Suspension Poses: What Would Randa Mai Do? Using a series of Japanese style techniques, we'll look at how to get your play partner up into the air or forced onto one toe. This class is for folks with a sound understanding of rope bondage, but folks who are not at an advanced level are welcome to come and watch as we learn how to create moving suspensions, partially suspend our partners, and suspend them in poses perfect for fucking, meditation, torture, and intense scenes with bondage as the point.

Other Skill Classes

BDSM 101: An Introduction to Creative Sexual Exploration and Play: Bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism. These words elicit for many people a sense of titillation, or of dread. In this humorous and accessible approach to learning about alternative and sometimes edgy sexual practices, we will be looking at what draws people to this wide array of kinky sex interests, as well as other similar topics such as fetishism, voyeurism, exhibitionism, varies relationship structures, swinging and more. After looking at what kinky sex is and why people get into it, we will have an opportunity to look at the laws around these activities, the variety of types of things people enjoy in spicy bedroom (and out of the bedroom) games, the tools used, and how these things can be and are safe to explore. Bring your sense of humor, your curiosity, and your questions to this opportunity to learn about the wide variety of sexual expression found in BDSM and Kinky Sex.
Be Yourself or Someone Else: Invocation and Evocation Techniques for Roleplaying: So you've decided that it could be fun to do some role playing, but aren't sure where to go with it? Let's develop some skills together! Using classical evocation skills we will work to pull out our inner emotions and be able to pull upon our sensuality, anger, sadness, and other feelings on command. Evocation is also an amazing tool for pulling out our own inner Daddy, pony, goddess, or slave. We will then turn to the idea of invocation, to tap into personal, cultural and universal archetypes as well as other concepts that we are drawn to. Just because it's not inside you, doesn't mean you can't learn through some simple exercises and brainstorming to learn how to "draw it down." Bring your roleplaying fantasies or curiosity for this fun discussion and exercise driven workshop.
Beyond Bowed Heads: Rituals for Dominance and submission: Rituals are a key part of any D/s relationship, whether we acknowledge them or not. From casual kisses as the door to formal slave poses, ritual objects such as collars to slave contracts, the BDSM world is rife with concepts of ritual- but what is a ritual? What are the levels of ritualistic interaction we have between one another? Let's look at rituals for day to day life (including how to get out of work or parent space), sacred time, intense connection, erotic play, solidifying relationships, changes within our relationships, and the taboo subject of the devastating loss of a relationship or its natural end. From terminology to developing your own code of ethical interaction, this class covers a bevy of styles and types of interpersonal reactions.
Beyond Roleplay: Invocations and Evocations for Ritual Work and BDSM: Role play is about simply putting on a mask and becoming something fun for a moment, right? Not for everyone- some of use need to go further. Whether calling upon a persona that is inherent in our very being, or calling down God-forms, animal roles, or our yet-unmet Daddy persona, invocation and evocation can be powerful tools for both BDSM exploration and intense ritual work. From wardrobe to rituals, dabbling in persona manifestation to evoking emotional responses, getting into *and* out of head space, we'll discuss and delve into what these tools can mean for your life and desires. You do not have to be pagan or kinky to explore intense role play or connect with your personal, cultural and universal archetypes for hot scenes or spiritual identity.
Binding Intentions: The Art of Fiber Magic: Fiber art magic has been a part of sacred mysteries for ages, the Fates measuring our lives, weaving them into the tapestry of life, and then cutting our cords when our time has run out. We will dive into the applications of rope magic, from intention setting to connection building, blessings and curses, weaving lives together and relaying the strands of our own lives into the patterns we desire. From classic Wiccan spells of eight knots to dream catchers, erotic bondage as a connection tool or ordeal, binding energy into our relationships, laying physical cord as a route to laying silver cords in the astral realms, and creating "haunted" rope, rope magic comes in a thousand forms and we'll touch on as many as we can. Also addressed will be concepts of ethics in energy work, the conflicts of formal fiber traditions with modern minds, and even weave our senses into modern applications of fiber magic.
Binding Intentions: Fiber Magic Ritual: Turn your focus inward, find your will for transformation in the coming year, and work that will in this hands on learning ritual. Using the basics of binding fiber magic, we will apply our desires for the coming year into the physical manifestation of the cords before us, learn about types of knots and knot magic, basic dedication work, then bind all of our spells together into a single long line. From there we will learn about and create a dream catcher, focus our wills into catching our dreams, and from there learn the basics of tasseomancy (pattern reading for divination) using the web before us. Learn new magic techniques with your hands, and transform your life with the binding intentions of fiber ritual work.
Cord Magic Made Easy: This hands on class for all ages will look at knot, string and cord magic in many cultures, then have each person learn how to use knot and cord magic in their own life. We will look at: Types of cords and fibers to use, Energetically charging cords for magical work, Different knots for different intentions, Basic cord magic spells... and more! Supplies will be provided for you to practice cord magic in class, and take your knowledge home.
Cutting and Kink: Transformations of Self-Mutilation into Erotic Play & Body Modification: Individuals self-injure and cut for many reasons: abuse, depression, attention seeking, pain management, rage, anxiety, and more. For kink sexuality, BDSM and body modification community explorers, there are possible alternative outlets for these needs, or physically and energetically safer ways to engage in these behaviors. Using interview responses we will examine those who have transformed their need for self-mutilation into other forms of expression, looking at whether healthy cutting can ever take place in client's lives.
Desired Object, Forgotten Object: Erotic Objectification for Animists: In the erotically adventurous world, a lot of conversation has been batted about concerning the idea of objectification and its supposed partner humiliation. However, for those of us who believe objects have souls, things have value, and the earth itself is not something to be thrown away when we are done with it, how does this dynamic between human and human-object shift? How does our interaction with a human table change for those of us who look at tables as more than wood? Can we apply our desire to create lasting relationships with our human-objects (through backing up their core value and identities, negotiation, and more) to creating lasting relationships with the non-human-objects in our world? In a world where everything has a soul, we will look at whether humiliation has a place in the language of objectification and dive into our own ethics while examining our objects of desire.
Effective Speaking Skills: Have you always wanted to speak in front of a crowd but are too jittery? Perhaps you are an experienced speaker or educator who wants their lectures and presentations to stand out and be remembered? Come learn how to effectively use your voice and body language to communicate your message in a wide variety of teaching and speaking environments. From claiming of space to audience empathy, use of vocal range to hiding your nervousness, we will plunge in together and come out more certain of our ability to deliver our message.
Femme FTM: Drag Queens, GirlyBoys, Men in Skirts, and Feminine Transmen: If other men can be femme, why can't we? There is a prevailing myth in the world of psychology and gender that transitioning individuals need to adhere 100% to their "new gender", but if we've spent our lives having issues being squished into one gender mold, why should we be forced into a new one? In this class and group discussion, we will discuss a wide variety of places that femininity can be experienced by men (and have been experienced for thousands of years), from athletes that enjoy knitting to super fabulous drag queens who are no less men at the end of the night. Do you sport skirts, lip gloss or long hair? Have you been tackling the issue of being told you have to give up something you love "because you are a guy"? Then this class is for you.
Fleshing it Out: Sacred and Profane Body Modifications: So you've decided you want to modify your body in some way... how do you choose the right process for your goal? Are you concentrating on the spiritual, political, or purely aesthetic value? Is it honoring an ordeal, or is the marking itself to be an ordeal? How does the intent change from making a one-time marking on the body (such as with a tattoo), rather than having to re-draw that intent daily (such as with daily application of makeup). We will look at the wide variety of body modifications available today (from henna/mehndi to hook hangs, stage makeup to genital reconstruction surgery, temporary piercing to flesh removal), and discuss the energy inherit in each type of modification, plus their history, and social implications. Let's discuss if getting that giant scarification piece cut for a specific god or partner is really as appropriate as you think.
Fleshing it Out: Sacred and Profane Body Modifications (For Academic Settings): The world over, body modification is used as a way to express identity, whether that is self identity, cultural (or sub-cultural) affiliation or milestones, political views, spiritual connections, or other roads of identity. Are you aware of the modifications you have already made to live the life you currently have, such as having a specific hair style to blend in with your peer circle, or living at a specific weight? What does having a tattoo mean nowadays? What did it used to mean? How does the act of jewelry wearing change (such as a wedding band) when we must consciously put it on each day? We will look at the wide variety of body modifications available today (from henna/mehndi to hook hangs, stage makeup to genital reconstruction surgery, temporary piercing to flesh removal), and discuss the energy inherit in each type of modification, an overview of their history, and social implications today.
From Tits to Tats: Traversing Sex Politics in the First Person: Never your average boy next door, Lee Harrington was born Bridgett Louise Ashlee Jauregui Harrington- a clever girl who won awards for academic work and eventually ended up working simultaneously as an adult film actor and a database administrator for a Christian faith organization. In this first person tale of coming to grips with gender as a cosmopolitan human, Lee will share his tale of moving through being a girl, being a boy, being forced by the therapeutic institution back into being a girl, going into sex work to try to learn to love his body, a happy marriage as a two-spirited human, hardcore porn, spiritual adventures, near death experiences, and eventually to an identity as a femme man in America. Join Lee as he journeys, backwards, forwards, and eventually works towards the hard questions- what is gender, what is identity, and how do we look at ourselves in the mirror.
Foot Fetishism, Worship and Torture: The foot has been known throughout history to be an item of desire- whether fetishized in the form of high heels or foot binding, submissives begging to give their mistress a pedicure, or an erotic masseuse reaching the genitals by way of the feet. But feet are not just for bottoms to play with. Bastinado (foot beating) was a common practice in dungeons of old, and the gay leather icon of the strong Daddy adoring the boy who is licking his boot is still strong. Why to feet tantalize us? How can we worship them? How can we abuse them? Let's look at heels, arches, toes (clad in hosiery, socks or bare), the gentle curve of the ankle... and see where this delicious fetish can take us as a Top, bottom, Dominant or submissive.
From TNG to KOBRAS: Examining Age-Based Groups within the Kink Communities: Age-based peership within alternative sexual practices is not new, but its evolution in the past decade has led to a wide variety of groups now active, from TNG (The Next Generation) to KOBRAS (Kinky Old Bastards/Broads/Bitches Really Are Sexy) and beyond. This trend is about far more than age. We will look into the history of age-based kink organizations in North America, their original intents, and where they are now. How have these groups evolved, and are they serving or can they serve the needs of the communities they say they are there for? Do these groups have a future, and what does that future hold for both these groups and for the kink communities at large?
FTM CBT: Genital Torment for Queer Bodies: Let�s admit it- doing genital torment on transguys is different than doing it on other bodies. In some ways we get the best of all worlds- so let�s talk about our desires to torment, tease, punish and pamper our amazing flesh. After discussing the varieties of genitals out there to play with (and what we call them) in this category and how our hormones and modifications (or having had neither) have affected our CBT and sex, we will demonstrate and discuss a wide variety of torment options. Abrasion, piercing, bondage, clamps, caning� plus more advanced concepts like playing with trans genital humiliation will all be up for grabs. Add some dirty talking and negotiation skills into the mix- and watch us squirm!
Getting to Hot: Safety, Communication and Negotiation: Communication is all about safewords and health issues, right? Wrong! Let's get back to what communication is really about- making your relationships in and out of rope hot by getting into each other's heads and really learning to share our fantasies, fears, desires, and needs. Let's talk about getting our desires met, exploring our passions, how to share the scary things, how to not make your bottom feel like shit when they can't hold a bondage pose, sex, the mysterious creature known as aftercare (and what about precare?), intimacy, and so much more.
Harnessing Courage: Walking Your Path of Erotic Authenticity: We each embrace a wide variety of sexual, gender, identity and relationship labels and roles in our life- some that we are handed at birth as expectations from family or society, and others that we acquire or have grow on us. But do we serve our roles, or do our roles serve us? Let us take an enLIGHTening walk through the stories our labels tell about us, how we interpret the stories of our lives, and then set it aside as we truly explore what makes you... YOU. By challenging ourselves to be real with ourselves, we will build the roots of living an erotically courageous life, full of the power that understanding our myriad facades grants us (and when to take those masks off). Instead of looking at what doesn't work, or who we aren't - let us work together to build an internal and external vocabulary of what works for us, setting one foot in front of another on your OWN Path of Erotic Authenticity. Be challenged to laugh, smile, put on our thinking caps, open up a bit about our own paths, and start chewing on our truths, perceived truths, wants, and true core needs.
How Much an Hour: My Gender Journey through Sex Work in America: Learn first hand what the wide variety of sex work in America looks like straight from the man (and woman) living it. My tale takes you from the life of a fetish model and adult film actress, to that of a male pornographer and conceptual erotic artist. You will journey from being an escort, to hiring them. Explore the adventure of being a high priced Dominatrix, then learn to find erotic employment as a transgendered male while navigating the life of a full time sexuality educator. Having had my first exposure to street sex work at the age of 14, to lecturing internationally on erotic authenticity, I have been part of or held hands with most sides of the sex industry- and through my eyes, so can you.
Inner Monsters (Bottoms): Delving Into the Darkness of Our Desires: In a world where dark fantasy has been sanitized into "Safe, Sane and Consensual," how do we address the truths of some of our more terrifying and terrible erotic desires? How do we look at ourselves in the mirror after we have been ripped apart emotionally and physically, and how can we still look at our partners who did this to us the loved ones we knew before the scene? What do we do when our Tops comes to us with their own demons to be exorcised in the bedroom or dungeon, and those things scare us or turn us on and we are unsure if that makes us bad people. In this closed-group discussion for Bottoms only (Switches may attend but only speak from their experience as Bottoms) we will examine our own inner monsters, discuss our fears and desires, and look honestly into the mirror and wonder- if we feed the monster, will it consume those we love... or if we starve it, will it eat us whole?
Inner Monsters (Tops): Delving Into the Darkness of Our Desires: In a world where dark fantasy has been sanitized into "Safe, Sane and Consensual," how do we address the truths of some of our more terrifying and terrible erotic desires? How do we look at ourselves in the mirror after we have taken our partner apart in the bedroom and left them broken and battered? What do we do when our partners comes to us with their own demons to be exorcised in the bedroom or dungeon, and those things scare us or turn us on and we are unsure if that makes us bad people. In this closed-group discussion for Tops only (Switches may attend but only speak from their experience as Tops) we will examine our own inner monsters, discuss our fears and desires, and look honestly into the mirror and wonder- if we feed the monster, will it consume those we love... or if we starve it, will it eat us whole?
Kissing Cousins: Diverse Age Play and Familial Roles in Kink: When most people outside of the BDSM community talk about Age Play, images like adults in diapers tend to turn a lot of folks off (even if that can be fun). But Age Play for consenting adults can be SO much more! We will explore personal, cultural and universal archtypes of parenthood, childhood, and all kinds of kidhood and adultdom to find a voice for our own diverse desires... from naughty teenage girlz (who says kidz are bottoms?) to packs of boy scoutz, let's look at pre-verbal, toddler, schoolkid, teen, and a wide variety of adult roles that we can enjoy for role play or lifestyle identities. Daddies, Mommies, other Familial roles will be explored, as well as how to incorporate age play into your other kinks, while we also touch on the land mines of our pasts and helping Kidz and Adultz who have been emotionally hurt by past kink relationships.
Laughing Our Way to Intimacy: Humor and Sex: We've each had those moments -- when the vibrator goes flying or the stereo goes off with just the wrong song, and suddenly sex has turned into hilarity. But looking beyond the accidents that make for funny stories later, how can we incorporate humor and comedy to purposefully add spice, connection, intimacy or variety to our bedroom (and other) erotic adventures? Exploring the different schools of comedy from absurdity and slapstick to satire, black comedy and dry observation, we will see how each can be included in our sexual escapades. Whether you are using humor to try something new, push a boundary, look back on past pain, or simply PLAY -- this class is for you.
Let's Talk About Sex: Frank Discussions around the Realities of our Desires: So here's the truth- no one has the same type of sexual interactions or erotic expression as anyone else. Some people want to be penetrated, others eschew the idea. Some of us want to be touched certain ways, others don't. Just because you're gay doesn't mean you enjoy anal play, just because you're a lesbian doesn't mean you like having your pussy licked. Every one of us is different. So let's talk about it! In this discussion based class we will talk about what the hell sex is to us, what we call the stuff between our legs, and what we like to do with it when no one else is watching. Can it be touched? How can it be touched, and what are your thoughts around your body in general? What is safer sex, and do you actually do it when the passion is turned up to ten? How do you discuss this stuff with your partners, or do you expect psychic awareness or fumbling in the dark? Do you cum, how do you cum, and does it matter? Let's air our dirty laundry and talk openly, honestly, and passionately about sex!
My Kink is not all Black: Humor and BDSM: Incorporating humor into erotica and BDSM has been a popular topic in sex-positive culture... but what flavor of comedy best suits your desires? Exploring the different schools of comedy from absurdity and slapstick to satire, black comedy and dry observation, we will see how each can be included in our sexual escapades. Whether you are using humor to try something new, push a boundary, look back on past pain, add public displays to your world, or simply PLAY- this class is for you.
On Their Knees: Tools for Professional Erotic Dominance: So you've decided that you want to be a professional dominant or dominatrix, what now? We will discuss the role of persona development, what to offer, and how to decide upon issues like tribute and limits before meeting up with clients. Then we will turn to the issue of negotiation, reading body language, setting the stage, making things memorable, and the types of sessions out there that people enjoy and how the each tend to go... or how to make them your own. We will also take a serious look at issues of getting your name out there, how to decide upon personal ethics in professional domination, keeping yourself sane in this line of work, and the issue of sticking to our guns while retaining the interest of our adoring fans.
Open Hearts, Open Minds: Exploring "Alternative" Relationship Structures: Modern romance dictates that a single individual should fulfill all of our needs- from sharing joys and fears, co-parenting and financial commitments to sexual happiness, identity confirmation and spiritual fulfillment. Is this fair? We will look into what relationships give us, then explore a wide variety of relationship structures that are being employed to have people fill all of their needs. Monogamy and serial monogamy are valid options, but what about polyamory, swinging, pre-arranged trysts, friends with benefits, and more? How do we communicate in our relationships to make whatever structure we choose actually work, and of course we'll plunge into issues like jealousy vs. envy, new relationship energy, and making each of our friends and partners feel like the unique person they are in our lives.
Pain is Inevitable, Suffering is Optional: Techniques for Erotic Pain Processing: Each of us processes pain and intense sensation in different ways. Some of us scream, some go silent, and some laugh with glee. Some focus on the connection we have with our partners and go stoic, while others dance, write and squirm to let the pain come out through movement. From distracting ourselves with other thoughts or body inputs, to breathing techniques we will discuss how different individuals process pain and how to increase your own effectiveness in transmuting pain into pleasure, suffering, or erotic connection.
Pick-up Play: Doing Kink By The Seat of Your Pants: Ever find yourself called to a scene, but left your flogger at home? Did your toybag get lost by the airlines? Bring what you usually carry around with you in your day to day life, and we'll look at how to think creatively about what we have with us (bandannas make great gags and blindfolds) or what we can find easily anywhere we go (forks make great sensation toys). This class is perfect for the kink inclined to public play, folks on a budget, and those wanting to think outside their 40lb. kinky tool bags.
Pick-up Rites: Doing Magic and Spells By The Seat of Your Pants: Ever find yourself called to cast a spell, but you left your athame at home? Did your sacred toolkit get lost by the airlines? Bring what you usually carry around with you in your day to day life, and we'll look at how to think creatively about what we have with us (bandannas make great alter cloths) or what we can find easily anywhere we go (salt packets from fast food restaurants are perfect for drawing circles). This class is perfect for the magically inclined in suburbia, street punks, minimalists, and those wanting to think outside their 40lb. magical tool bags.
Playing Between The Ears: Erotic Hypnosis, Trance and Dirty Talk: Close your eyes and relax, or get yourself all wound up, it's time to delve into the most powerful sex organ we have to play with- the brain! From formal induction hypnosis concepts to how to just use the perfect words to spice up your sex life, we will be discussing and exploring some practical skills on creating guided visualizations, intensifying role play, building command words, self-hypnosis, and much more. As well as the fun and flirty stuff, we will also look at the legal and ethical ramifications of these sorts of play, horror stories, myths about trance states... and see what mysteries we can uncover between our ears.
Punching, Kicking and Deep Bruising: Hands. Fists. Feet. Paddles. Saps. Foam Bats. Rubber Hoses... and more... Delve into ways to really leave a mark, dig into the meat of the matter, feet muscle under your fingertips or how to land blows in a safer manner. From basic anatomy lessons to blow-by-blow ideas of how to use this sort of play in your own scenes- let's see if we can leave an impression.
Reclaiming our Pleasure Rights: Sexuality, Psychology, and Ecstasy for individuals outside the gender binary and their lovers: Let's skip to the meat of the matter: we want sex, we have sex, and we deserve sex. But how can we reclaim our pleasure rights when we won't even talk about it with our friends and lovers? In this class we will dive into the fears we have around rejection and body dysphoria, then put that all on a shelf for a few minutes to dive into what actually WORKS! How does humor and joy play into our pursuit of pleasure? What issues face trans folks or others who are outside the binary who have male partners, female partners, trans partners, and hell, what do you call the stuff between your legs anyway? Does it matter? We'll touch on the issues of safer sex as well, in a community where our desperation to be touched the way we need to be touched has led to a heartbreaking habit of doing anything to get our needs met.
(Re)Thinking Gender: There are a lot of words out there for gender nowadays. Join me as we dive in deep, looking at definitions, disclosure, desire, discussions to have, and how to explore this thing gumbo pot of identity. The assumptions around gender need a lot of work. What do we want to do with our bodies? What are our sexual and gender myths and truths? And how do you play with folks who are going through these journeys? Lets get analytical, lets get sexy, and lets open our hearts as we (re)think about gender.
Sacred Consort: Connecting with your Divine Lover: On the other side of the veil your holy beloved waits. Join this circle and sensual guided meditation out of our mundane world and into the land of our spirit, where our companion awaits us. Some of us will connect to the flame at the heart of the universe, beating in union with our souls and loins. Others will open up to find a specific spirit, deity or being who has been hoping to court us as a one time liaison or as a partner along our life's journey. Or we may find a reflection of ourselves longing to embrace our own hedonistic worship and desire. Bring a towel, and perhaps a pillow, sex toys, blindfolds or other tools you are called to bring as well. Gloves, lube, and other safer solo-sex supplies will be available as well, though physical auto erotic stimulation and/or nudity are not required for participation. Please arrive on time as there will be no late entry allowed.
Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM: Using BDSM and Fetishism, you may already be doing sacred kink for your own magical, emotional, spiritual and energetic work without being aware of it! Exploring the Eightfold Paths to altered states of consciousness (not to be confused with the Eightfold Path in Buddhism) we will examine how we use the Path of Ritual for earning our leathers, Path of Rhythm for cathartic flogging, Path of Flesh for sensual bondage scenes and so much more. Come learn how to be conscious of your own sacred kink workings, how these tools have been used for thousands of years, and how to incorporate new approaches to deepen your energetic connections in the future.
Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM (for Academic Settings): The world of BDSM and Fetishism tap into a rich and varied history of human magical, emotional, spiritual and energetic experience- and the parallels are available for those who will dive in and look! Exploring the Eightfold Paths to altered states of consciousness (not to be confused with the Eightfold Path in Buddhism) we will examine how the Path of Ritual is engaged for earning of leathers, Path of Rhythm is accessed for cathartic flogging, Path of Flesh for sensual bondage scenes and so much more. Pouring through thousands of years of sacred practices from monasticism to O-Kee-Pa (Sun Dance), ecstatic dance to channeling, join us as we see how these tools have been happily "perverted" by modern erotic adventurers. In doing so we will become aware of these diverse journeys, and in turn find ways to incorporate new ways to deepen your own energetic connections in the future.
Safer Magical Sex and Erotic Energy Exchanges: How do we protect ourselves energetically and physically during acts and explorations of using our bodies, will and desire? From masturbation to bdsm and all manifestations in-between, we will discuss how to use our erotic props (safer sex supplies, sex toys, fetish items and bdsm gear) for magical shielding, extensions of our astral body, and energetic empowerment. Join us as we discuss body fluids and prana, how to choose what parts of ourselves intermingle with our partners, dedication or cleansing/grounding of our erotic props, energy ethics, sacred spaces, and the why behind some of these interactions.
Sex Magic Workers and Magical Sex Practitioners: Many of us use the tools of sex magic, or are magical sex practitioners- be they spirit workers, ceremonial magicians, shamans, sacred whores, god spouses, or those dedicating their sex lives to the divine. If you are currently a sex worker doing magical work, a magical worker using sex as a tool, or something else that might apply- join us for a discussion of our ethics, magical practices, safer sex, networking, temple work, designing rituals, the difference between sex magic and magical sex. We will share war stories, and troubleshoot with one another about our challenges as erotic and magical peers.
Sir! Yes Sir! : Exploring, Developing, Implementing and Enforcing Protocol: Everyone in the Dominant/submissive and Master/slave community seems to talk about protocol, but what is it exactly? Where does the line between "common sense" and "etiquette" stop, and protocol begin? We will look at what Protocol is in a D/s context, delve into terminology, and then examine formats of commonly recognized protocol systems and how these things develop in individual relationships and group dynamics. How does protocol change from public interactions to existing 24-7 in private dynamics? Once we have examined what protocol can be, we will look into how to further develop our chosen dynamics, implement them consistently, and then discuss the difference between enforcing protocol and punishment techniques. These concepts do NOT just apply to M/s and D/s dynamics- from active listening to self sabotage, this class will touch on communication and lifestyle skills for all types of relationships.
Splish-Splash: Splosh and Messy Play: From pudding and oil wrestling to food play, cake fights, baked beans, mud fests and more- sposh play is a whole category of tactile delights for Tops, bottoms, sensualists, sensation sluts and those of us who just like a good thrill. We will discuss the types of splosh play out there from pies in the face to ice cream all the way up to enemas and mud fights, the pros and cons of edibles, insertables and toxic goo, Splosh play for aesthetics versus sensation... plus safety, tips and tricks for not ruining your whole home during a scene- plus there will be a huge hands-on portion of the class for folks who want to get naked (or wear a swimsuit that can get squirted full of syrup) for those who want to try out Splosh and Messy play themselves.
Switching Strategies: Fulfilling your Needs and more: The term "switch" has a lot of baggage attached in a polar BDSM community, where you are expected to be a Top or a bottom, a Master or a slave- but there are a thousand reasons why many of us feel a calling to cross over from time to time- while others are born to ride thousands of sides of their soul. We will be addressing why people switch (Tops who want to know what it feels like, slaves who want to serve masochistic Masters, greedy pigs who want it all), strategies to finding play partners or relationship structures (one partner many roles, play partners outside of monogamous relationships, polyamory, swinging, open relationships, self-play), and create ways to check in with ourselves about what our own needs are. When desires are left unfulfilled, it can lead to resentment, break downs in communication, and anger- but how do we find ways to fill our needs when we are ashamed of them, our partners are turned off by them, or we're just to shy to ask?
Take My Breath Away: Breath and Air Flow Play: Breath play is the black sheep of the BDSM family- but folks ARE doing it. Get real. Let's discuss why and how folks are playing, then plunge into the styles that exist out there, from gas masks to choking, bagging to shared breath play, tantric breathing to nooses and more. This stuff makes us hot, so fess up- you are not alone. We will also touch on auto-erotic breath play, complicated breath play scenes, and health issues involved in breath play. This is a closed-door class with no late admittance allowed.
Taking the Lead: Human Pony, Puppy and Animal Owning/Training: The freedom of becoming something greater than human is a call for many- the desire to be a noble human equine, a happy puppy dog, an oily pig in a pen, a lazy cat that gets fed, petted and... but what about those of us who have to take care of these "Creatures"? How do we best see to their needs, help them truly live their fantasies out, create the perfect scenes and live for them- and still get what we want out of being human pet owners? We will discuss the psychology of human pets and pet owning, practicalities of dealing with bodily functions and the desire to fuck our "pets" without messing up their head space, shopping for our ponies and puppies, and then have some general play time to interact with the pets we may have brought with us today. This is a great class for folks who are just curious about being a human "creature" as well- get your whinnies heard by your owners!
Tickle Torture and Sensual Tickling: From soft feathers beneath the toes to firm jabs under the ribs, teeth tracing along the arch to dusters under the armpits... Tickling can be sensual fun between lovers, or can be excruciating torture for a bound victim... or both! We'll discuss our love-hate relationship with this childhood torment, discuss the tools of the trade, and see how it can be incorporated into our scenes as sexual adventurers.
Trotting Towards Happiness: Pony Training Techniques: So your human pony/horse has a name, and you've taken the reigns. Now what? We'll address a wide variety of training techniques and play opportunities for human ponies and their handlers, for ponies whose interests vary from being wild ponies being "broken" to show ponies that just need an excuse to show off. Concepts include blindfold training, high stepping, sound and body language, use of reigns, lunge lines, pony body stances and types of movement, helping your human pony move in and out of pony space, the debate of ponies and punishment, and so much more.
Turning the Page: Initiations and Transformations: From coming of age ceremonies to rituals to mark the end of a given period in our life, American culture is grossly lacking in key rituals of initiation and transformation that classical cultures possessed. This lack of initiation has directly effected how individuals in the BDSM, Leather, Fetish and Kink communities have come to view their own transformations as individuals of erotic identity. Let's take a look at what transformative experiences have shaped our evolution as sexual human beings, the varieties of initiations that culture at large uses (as acknowledgement of status, to ordeals, to imbuement of gnosis), and how the self-initiation, self-dedication, and acts of community of peer acknowledgement from others in our own paths towards passionate selfhood have effected us in our own journey towards our own unique erotic identity.
Turning the Page: Initiations and Transformations (For Academic Settings): From coming of age ceremonies to rituals to mark the end of a given period in our life, American culture is grossly lacking in key rituals of initiation and transformation that classical cultures possessed. This lack of initiation has directly effected how individuals in a wide variety of subcultures in America have come to view their own transformations as individuals of erotic identity. Let's take a look at what transformative experiences have shaped our evolution as sexual human beings, the varieties of initiations that culture at large uses (as acknowledgement of status, to ordeals, to imbuement of gnosis), and how the self-initiation, self-dedication, and acts of community of peer acknowledgement from others in our own paths towards passionate selfhood have effected us in our own journey towards our own unique identity.
You're Hot when You're You: We've all been told on some level that what we are, who we are, or what we want is not normal. Is strange. Isn't acceptable. Is wrong. We're all broken, so what? Or more importantly, now what? Join Nina and Lee as they explore their journeys of gender, presentation, Dominance and submission, sexuality and more that never had a box to fit into in the first place. From self examination to self acceptance to self celebration, lets look into what makes each of us truly sexy, truly hot, truly authentic... finding ourselves amidst the messages from our communities and beyond.
Watersports- Wet Dreams and Wetter Desires: Golden showers, Piss play, Water sports... whatever you want to call it, it's a kink for many, and there are reasons behind it. From being forced in a humiliation scene to be peed on by a gang of people, to getting to piddle in your diapers, to evoking the Fountains of Venus (female masturbation or oral sex with a very full bladder, released on orgasm), there are a wide variety of ways people can get into water sports from delightful to dirty. What will call you? We'll be looking into psychology, health, tips for getting more recycled water,... and of course fun and disgusting ways to incorporate urine into your repertoire of play.
What Labels Give Us, What Labels Take Away: The Power of Gender and Sexual Identity Labels: Before many of us were born, we were given gender labels that set our life course in motion. In this discussion and personally explorative class, we will dive into looking at a variety of questions: What labels have you been gifted, inherited, chosen, been forced into, or run away from? How does your internal identity for yourself affect your outside identity and your interpretation of gender and sexual roles you play or fill? What power do your labels grant you for flirting, community exposure, personal interactions, group dynamics, and more? What do you loose by stating a specific label or expressing it physically at first meeting another individual? How are these labels all formed, and why don't we just scrap them all? Labels can get us hot, labels can turn us off, labels drive us mad, and labels give us hope for claiming our own sense of self. Let's challenge ourselves, look deep inside, then examine how it all affects the current communities we each play a part in.
What's Leather Got to Do With It? Leather Fetish, Sex and Soul: The world of BDSM often speaks of Leather as an identity, or as shorthand for our passions, but what about leather itself? The hides of animals, our second skins, this material that once lived and breathed has inspired erotic explorers for generations... why? From tools of pain and pleasure to the wide varieties of clothing that wrap around our form and conform to our shape with time- we will examine our tough exteriors to find how leather fetish has inspired leather sex, and in turn, leather soul, identity and spirit... and the term "Leather Community" itself. Bring at least one piece of leather with you- be it a piece of your earned leathers if you come from that tradition, your favorite flogger, a tight pair of gloves, your favorite boots, your old friend of a belt, or something else to inspire yourself or others as part of this conversation towards understanding leather as more than a raw material.

Classes Under Consideration for Development

(Contact me if you have something else in mind).

When Art and Desire Collide: Aesthetics of Rope Bondage
Sticking To Your Guns: Listening to your kinks for better or worse
Enemas: Cleaning, ritual, desire, humiliation and messy play
God/dess Within: Sacred Touch and Opening up as Conduits to the Divine for our Partners
More Than Flesh: Astral Bodies and Astral Shapeshifting
Loving our Own: Examining Trans 2 Trans Romance
Animal Magic/ Animal Powers/Animal Play
Not Just A Hook and a Prayer: Ordeal Path Energy and Ethics
Building a Better Blowjob
Star God, Star Goddess: Harnessing Auto-Erotic Sex Magic Energy
Orgasm Magic
Up the Bum: The Art of Anal Play
Dedications of Pain, Offerings of Ecstasy: BDSM with Intent
Center in the City: Urban Shamanism and Metropolitan Magic
Dedicating Sacred Sex Toys and Magical Erotic Tools
Sex Magic Ethics
Listening to Our Inner Erotic Voice: Finding the truths of our personal fantasies and desires