Asrik said it beautifully…and I would add that some people really NEED to be told “no”…regardless of what they want, or imagine that you ought to give them. The Universe can be efficient that way. A well placed “no” serves you both.

The hardest lesson I ever learned was that those people who swear they will perish without whatever you have to give…always manage to thrive without you, long after they’ve sucked you dry. And some of them, when left with no other choice, actually learn to manage for themselves. Imagine my surprise.

And I absolutely adore the Lee who will say to me: I cannot handle that many words from you right now.

1. There are people who exist in a state of needing help and, unconciously or not, are actually content in that place. They don’t genuinely want help, what they need, what their narrative needs, is for their lives to suck. Attempting to help them isn’t even assuaging a need for drama/energy, it is entirely counterproductive.
2. I have spent time with many versions of you and, as someone who knows you a little bit, I can tell when I am spending time with *trumpet sound* LEE HARRINGTON, TEH AWESOMENESS. Don’t get me wrong, SUPERLEE is nice enough, but I hope you remember that the Lee who just wants me to go away because he is tired or angry, is equally or more fascinating. Personally I prefer a thriving, fullfilled, occasionally grouchy Lee (who doesn’t answer my emails) over Lee-the-cardboard-cutout.

Remember that the flame burns in all of us and every single time you walk towards thriving you strengthen your connection to it. Remember that the way to live life in the hands of the gods is as a fullfilled being, not a cardboard cut-out.

It was fun to meet you at the party, maybe some time we can sit down and talk, when the world is not in the living room, so to speak.

Also, it was great to meet you at the party! Take care!

I say this from seeing Harmony House form from the early stages (giving it the nickname the Stronghold before they found the property are on now), and watching it grow. As chaotic as it may seem to some people, I visit not only to be with my boyfriend who lives there, but to connect with everyone and recharge my batteries.

Hint- if you want to do dishes, don’t ask for permission. Sneak in when Diamond isn’t there and just start doing them.